I decided to be a social worker, a teacher, a writer, a dreamer; I decided to be an astronaut but I wasn’t good at maths. I decided China was the best place for me until I’d seen enough. I decided to stand but I missed the cotch. I decided to smoke, then I decided to not.
I thought about but decided against starting this blog with cliches about parking lots and green grass on the other side of a brighter life. I feel sorry for cliches; they are so true that they have somehow lost all meaning and are mocked by those who think they know better. Many of us think there is something better, something to work towards, to strive for with an unnerving amount of tenacity but when we arrive there, we automatically look for the tourist information booth. Some coast, expect the world owes them something or wait for the answer to fall like snow in the Sahara. Others hyperbolically rock the boat: megalomaniacs, I’ve dated a few sides of one of those. A few, the enviable few, take every day and waltz with it, treat it right and think of little more past that. But can those people be the high flyers? To fly high don’t you have to at least think about the flight?
The path to journalism is a tricky one for someone who is somewhat inclined to human ping pong. I want to see the world, all of it, every single back alley, every temple; I want to turn over rocks and watch crabs scuttle and hike across the Himalayas with a mule (two mules, I can’t travel light). Yet I also want a career, I want to do that well. Maybe this is a product of the ‘I want it all and I want it now generation.’ I am ansy for adventure and challenge and up until recently, this has been making me feel quite miserable…ahhh poor diddems with her first world problems, yeah, yeah I am aware!
So I’ve decided to see things differently, put on my funkadelic glasses, the kind that create a kind of optical illusion of your eyes. Through these I can see that adventure doesn’t have to happen over seas, I don’t need to roll down sand dunes on the Gobi desert, or sleep in a yurt on the grasslands of Mongolia (although I have an unending appreciation of these memories). This new adventure, this new challenge comes in the form of learning how to be. Be comfortable with commitment; be capable of forcing my brain to accept and digest information given to me, even when I don’t necessarily note it’s merits; be able to see that every experience is valuable and that learning is exciting, in every context.
I don’t believe that I am the only one who struggles with decisions, with growing up and saying goodbye. I think this is a product of our culture and generation. Last night I watched a short film at the underwire festival about an older woman who went off for the night with some drugged up teenagers; she was obviously torn between being sensible and flirting with her youth. The next morning she stood in front of her beautiful house, inside of which was her worried husband. The windmill in the front garden blew in the wind; underneath were the gardening tools left over from another time.